Anxiety and Relationships
Anxiety is a result of feeling unsafe or insecure in your current situation. Romantic Relationships tend to offer a sense of security which is what someone with anxiety so desperately needs. However, the thought of losing this sense of security at the drop of a dime can trigger relationship anxiety. Sometimes this can even cause one partner to potentially ruin a good thing by self-sabotaging the relationship due to these feelings of insecurity. This is why anxiety and intimate relationships can sometimes go hand in hand. So let’s explore how to get rid of relationship anxiety.
7 Signs You May Be Suffering from Anxiety in Relationships
- You start a relationship with the anticipation that there will be an expiration date
- Constant fear of the other person losing interest
- Constantly needing reassurance that the other person is still interested
- Worrying that your partner will cheat or that they are seeing other people
- Feeling more anxious once you’re in a romantic relationship
- Obsessing about and reading into your partners words and actions
- You experience separation anxiety when you’re not with your partner
How to Get Rid of Relationship Anxiety
1) Know Your Worth
Sometimes we tend to put the other person on a pedestal and forget that they are human and not perfect. Don’t doubt your awesomeness and wonder whether you’re good enough for your partner. Find your confidence and know that your partner is with you because they believe you are worthy. Don’t self-sabotage the relationship by wondering whether your partner will inevitably lose interest.
2) Don't Lose Yourself
Make sure you don’t make this person the center of your universe. Maintain a social life outside of your partner. Hang out with friends, family, and even those of the opposite sex. Don’t lose all your friends because you’re in a new relationship.
3) Put Your Emotions into Perspective
If you’re dating someone new and find that you’re suddenly on cloud nine, then try to bring yourself back down to earth. There’s a hormone called oxytocin that gets released when you’re bonding and intimate with someone. Especially with someone new and exciting. Oxytocin is sometimes referred to as the “love drug” and for good reason. This hormone can make you go “goo goo gaga” about someone while giving you all those butterflies in your tummy.
4) Make Sure Your Happiness Is Coming From Within
Make sure you’re not attaching your happiness to your partner alone. The best way to do this is to ask yourself if you were happy before the relationship and whether you would be happy without it. If you find that you’re only happy when you’re with this person, then you really need to figure out how to find happiness that comes from within. Check out my blog on finding true happiness to learn more.
5) Communication is Key
Don’t get lost in your thoughts. Make sure your thoughts stay realistic and keep the same pace as your partner. Communication is so important in a relationship, yet when it comes to love, a lot of us have a hard time communicating how we truly feel. Having an open source of communication will help bring security to the relationship.
6) Focus on the Present Moment
Don’t start planning your wedding on the 3rd date. Try to stay present and enjoy every bit of the beginning of this relationship. Obsessing over what your new relationship will look like in the future is only robbing you of enjoying what’s going on “now”. Peace lives in the present while anxiety lives in the future and you cannot experience both at once. Choose peace by enjoying the moments you’re spending with your partner “now.” Think of the quote, “If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.” Check out my blog on finding happiness in the present moment.
7) Don't Bring Old Baggage into New Relationships
Try your best to not bring old baggage into your new relationship. You being hurt by your ex-partner or feeling abandoned by a family member has nothing to do with your current partner. We need to forgive our past in order to be happy in the present. If you are holding on to grudges or angry at an ex, then you’re most likely subconsciously holding onto this negative energy and projecting it onto your new relationship. Forgive your past and make room for a clean slate. Check out my blog – how do you overcome negativity.
8) Don't Compare Yourself to Your Partners Exes
Try not to compare yourself to your partner’s exes or worry about their dating history. This will only trigger your ego, which creates negativity.
9) Don't Compare Your Relationship to Others
Comparing yourself to others creates ego, insecurity, and negativity. We’re all on our own journey going at our own pace. Focusing on other peoples progress only distracts you from successfully living out your life. If your relationship is not where you feel like it needs to be, then maybe there’s something bigger and better waiting for you.
10) Stay True to Yourself and Don’t Lose Your Purpose, Passions, and Hobbies
Don’t drop everything you love once you start dating someone new. If you don’t feel like you have purpose, passions, or hobbies, then it may be time to start exploring your depth as a person. All of us were given a purpose in life and living out your purpose can be extremely rewarding. Purpose can give your life meaning outside of your relationship and understanding this depth can put things into perspective.
Anxiety and Love
Most of us have experienced falling in love and heartbreak which can lead to some type of relationship anxiety. A romantic relationship can make us feel so freakin fantastic, yet it has the ability to make us feel so freakin bad. Learning how to get rid of relationship anxiety will not only make you feel better mentally, but will also help you cultivate long lasting healthy relationships in the future.
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